I have been successful in keeping aggro, but I be pushing buttons and hotkeys nonstop and casting nonstop. So my dps will be minimal. I can maintain aggro with R2, and often steal it. However, if I don't get the jump on a mob with an early blind, it can be difficult to rip. But I will rip, maybe after either the monk or the ranger dies, but I will rip with my setup.
Oh and with R2, I just let it lapse for a moment to do all self heals, then drop it, and keep it up until self heals up again. When im running ghot, i just let it run while R2 is on.
As far as stances, I had hoped for a stamina intensive stance with better defense than /s3, possibly a heal proc for when tanking and situational when stuff goes wrong. Like monk/bard stances for avoid.
I will never stop maining my paladin, unless I am done. And according to my severe addiction to this game, that is not an option ;0