*Note: I only have low tier experience.
But when i'm taking bosses and I use Voice clicky my Incite agent legs...and loose agro is just BS
How can we say whether this is a problem with your dps, or the particular boss, or your class? For instance if your dps blow their loads all over this boss of course you'll lose agro. Or if the boss is near immune to magic of course you'll lose agro. I think as a paladin you should lose agro in those situations.
Granted this is situational but I can think of Several encounters where MAX burn is needed and well you just can't do it with a pally tank.
So losing agro doesn't happen all the time. Hard to come to any conclusion about paladin balance without knowing how frequently this happens. Again, while this is completely subjective, I think that's how it should be. Paladins shouldn't be able to tank every raid boss. They are so incredible at everything else.
I'd like to point out the best paladin on the server has tanked just about every raid boss in this game, so it certainly is possible, though perhaps not easy.
This is a quote from the best cleric on the server
im not really sure where you get this idea paladins cant tank, bango has tanked Everything in this game
So Pally VS SK .. SK has by far best agro in game (tank wise) with Terriors and Voices they can cast. And they ARE more dps than pally just due to lifetaps and NOT HAVING TO CHAIN CAST SPELLS.
You wrote Pally VS SK, and whether you meant it to sound like a class comparison or not that's how I've interpreted it, which is absolutely silly considering you're only comparing 2 aspects of the classes, their damage and agro. While they do get lifetap damage, they also get 10% innate crit over sk's and give their entire group cleansing blows. Though, with spears and lifetaps I would agree that it looks as if paladins are behind in dps.
I'd also like to mention that having the best agro is irrelevant in my opinon if the other 2 tank classes can keep just enough agro to never lose a mob to a dps.
This is the most important part of your post in my opinion, and the only part, that if true, would make me believe paladins could use a change:
It's kind sad how in normal groups of my guildees as a tank I have to use a 2 hander and aggressive stance just to kinda hold agro.
Is this last quote true? I don't play a high tier paladin but I find this one difficult to believe. Can someone else comment on whether this is true or not? Thanks.