Not everything is black and white my friend and locking the topic below this one hasn't done any good for the people who think that way(what seemed like a large majority of those responding) or you(obviously you do not agree, think those people are idiots, and should wish to dissuade them). Now I have taken a class on the psychology of sexual behavior, I have lived as a man for 21 years, I have several friends who are men and a few who are women.
Does this make me an expert? Hell no I havent spent my life studying this subject OR the politics of it. What I do know, and what I have learned thus far in life, is that rarely do you find anything in this existence(least of which something to do with HUMAN BEHAVIOR) which occurs 100% of the time in the same way every time it occurs.
Now what I am going to say, very simply, you are not wrong, and neither are they. As a man I have developed friendships with some women I would rather have had as a sexual partner and girlfriend. Shit didnt work out, boohoo, we became friends. Did my desire to be with these women ever really dissappear? No, because these women are still, for the most part, the same women I came to be attracted to in the first place. Does this mean I can't be friends with them? No it doesn't, but it doesn't mean that I wasn't once, or am not now, or wont be in the future, attracted to them.
These are your forums, you started all of this, you have the right to decide what can be expressed here and what can't. But I would simply stress to you as one human being to another, it would be a good idea to accept the fact that not everything is clear cut. You are obviously a skilled and intelligent person, but your response to 'those posts' does not represent that.
Does this make me an expert? Hell no I havent spent my life studying this subject OR the politics of it. What I do know, and what I have learned thus far in life, is that rarely do you find anything in this existence(least of which something to do with HUMAN BEHAVIOR) which occurs 100% of the time in the same way every time it occurs.
Now what I am going to say, very simply, you are not wrong, and neither are they. As a man I have developed friendships with some women I would rather have had as a sexual partner and girlfriend. Shit didnt work out, boohoo, we became friends. Did my desire to be with these women ever really dissappear? No, because these women are still, for the most part, the same women I came to be attracted to in the first place. Does this mean I can't be friends with them? No it doesn't, but it doesn't mean that I wasn't once, or am not now, or wont be in the future, attracted to them.
These are your forums, you started all of this, you have the right to decide what can be expressed here and what can't. But I would simply stress to you as one human being to another, it would be a good idea to accept the fact that not everything is clear cut. You are obviously a skilled and intelligent person, but your response to 'those posts' does not represent that.
