Ok, lets try it like this.
- Download the game from the official EQ site (I gather you have done this?).
- Install the game (I believe you have not done this.)
- Find where it installed the game and direct the patcher to that folder. Push the Patch and Run button.
- Wait forever for it to download the mumble API and then patch your files.
- Assuming you didn't screw with the checkmarks on the patcher (don't screw with the checkmarks until you know what you're doing) EQW will open up. In the SAME FOLDER that you patched, select eqgame.exe and then click Start EQ.