If you've ever played an MMORPG, you'll know that leveling is simply part of the game... SoD give substantial rewards for questing (both in items that are great for the level you can get them, and in experience, faction and coin), is the only place I know of where you can gain ACTUAL levels by tradeskilling (I got most of level 21 on my Necro just by doing a completely store-bought tradeskill and it took less than an evening)... Groups ARE tough to find on SoD in general, but some areas are better for it than others. I can tell from the mobs you listed, you probably started in Stinger's Bog (well, in Oggok, and then you went out to Stinger's Bog). I have found a couple groups in that area, but often times you just have to solo.
On SoD, you DO have the option of running 2 copies of the client at one time and playing 2 characters so you don't have to wait for groups. You also have the option of playing a different class than what you started. Whatever it was you started may not be the best soloer, although by lvl 3, few classes really are starting to shine. Necromancers already have a pet at lvl 1 which is a nice boost for them... There are likely other classes that can be soloed as well....
So, there ya go... you can DC (dual client, aka 2box), play a soloing class, quest, tradeskill, or just continue on with the solo grind any time you're not able to get into a group... there really are more options here than there are on most MMORPGs.... if you don't like the array of options available, you probably just don't like the genre of game.